There is an elegant (to my eye) fetish “look” which is more appealing (to me), but it’s all lumped together as fetish with some of these extreme “things”. I wonder if the extreme freedom and subsequent very wild expressions attract people to the scene, ie encourage them to express a bizarre side, or repels them or intimidates them to stay away? I am thinking of a shy couple who decides to come out and finds themselves in the middle of something like the above. Would they feel they were in a safe non judgmental environment or would they need intimidated and freaked out thinking extreme self expression is the norm of the expectation?

This seems more like narcissism than fetishism. Perhaps I am wrong.